So, the holidays are coming up and you’re not feeling it this year due to the loss of a loved one. I know it’s painful, and I know it isn’t going to feel the same as it did last year or the year before. But with planning and intention, you truly can enjoy your holiday while remembering your lost loved one.
Ways to Remember a Loved One at Christmas
We all know that celebrating Christmas without a loved one can be extremely difficult. That is especially true when that friend or family member has passed away. Unfortunately, some people who are grieving decide to forego the holidays altogether. While no one would blame you if you choose to do that, it might be safe to say that your friend or family member would want you to continue living – and that includes celebrating the holidays.
Should you decide to do that this year, here are a few ways to remember someone you love at Christmas.
Light a Candle – One of the most common ways of remembering someone during the holidays, is the act of lighting a candle on Christmas Eve. You don’t have to be overly religious to do this. In fact, you don’t even have to go to church. Lighting a small candle and saying a simple prayer, at home, has the same meaning.
Plant a Tree – Due to winter weather conditions, this won’t work for everyone. But, if you live in a warm climate, why not plant a tree in memory of the person you’ve lost? A pine tree is the most obvious choice, because of the season, but any other type of tree is suitable as well. Of course, if you do live in a colder climate, you can always buy the tree in a pot and plant it when the ground thaws for spring. Either way, this is an excellent way to remember someone while helping Mother Nature to boot. By turning it into a yearly tradition, more trees will grow and more people will enjoy them.
Donate Something – Did your loved one have a favorite charity or interest? If so, consider making a donation in his or her name. It doesn’t necessarily have to be monetary in nature. Since it’s Christmas, think about purchasing several small gifts. Wrap them and donate them to a charity such as Toys for Tots or your local women’s shelter. If the idea of donating to charity really appeals to you, think about doing it all through the year. It’s a fantastic way to help others and keep the spirit of your loved one alive indefinitely. These don’t need to be large donations, by any means. When you give to charity, even the smallest gift is appreciated.
Go Out to Dinner – If your family usually eats Christmas dinner at home, maybe it’s time for a change of scenery. Make it special by making reservations at your loved one’s favorite restaurant. Go one step further and ask everyone to order one of that person’s favorite foods. Chances are the dinnertime conversation will revolve around fond memories of your loved one, in no time at all.
While these suggestions might all appeal to you, just take the ones that feel right and use them as you like. This can be a great way to incorporate the memory of someone you love into your Christmas celebration.
One of the most crucial things to remember, any time of the year, is that everyone mourns differently. The process typically depends on things like religious beliefs, relationship to the person who died, age and overall family bonds.
If this is the first Christmas without your loved one, expect things to be difficult at times. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time and to try not to be hard on yourself or others. Concentrate on the wonderful memories of the person or people you’ve lost. Things generally have a way of getting better, over time.
Just do the best you can and know that you’re not alone.