Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself. ~Deborah Reber
When a lot of people first learn about the law of attraction, they often jump in with both feet. And at first, they feel like they’re on top of the world! Nothing can stop them! But before long – sometimes as soon as a few days or even hours – they slip right back into the negative thinking that got them where they are in the first place.
They reason that life is throwing them curveballs, and they don’t even realize that they’ve gone back to their usual ways of experiencing the world. And then they end up drawing more negative things into their lives.
But in order to successfully use the law of attraction to our advantage, we must first learn to let go. We have to let go of our need to worry about and control everything. We have to recognize that stressing about everything we CAN’T control is only dampening our ability to keep our vibrations in line with our desires.
What does “letting go” mean?
“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.” ~C. JoyBell C.
To let go means to release your attachment to the negativity and the attachment to controlling everything in your life. It means to be open to receiving and to detach yourself from the outcome. It doesn’t mean you give up. It means you TRUST. It’s about getting out of your own way and allowing yourself to receive what you want and need in your life.
Law of Attraction: How to Let Go
Letting go requires real strength sometimes. As Ann Landers once said, “Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
So, we have to learn that using the law of attraction successfully means learning how to let go. The following simple tips will help you learn exactly what you need to do to finally let go so you can manifest the life you want.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
We have all heard that we shouldn’t sweat the small stuff. Letting oneself get stressed out over the little things in life is one of the biggest ways to bring unnecessary grief into life’s path. We can avoid a lot of negative feelings, and even health problems, simply by learning not to let the little things get to us.
Focus on the Bigger Picture
When something small happens that makes you want to rage, compare the moment’s significance to everything else going on in your own life, and in the world around you. You may have spilled your cake batter on the floor an hour before your guests are due to arrive. Are your friends still going to love you and enjoy the evening even if you don’t have a freshly baked cake for them? If so, maybe you should put your energy somewhere other than berating yourself for this small mistake.
Remember That Everybody Makes Mistakes
When something small threatens to destroy your attitude and positive outlook, think about the fact that everyone makes mistakes. Whether it is yourself or someone else who caused the situation that feels like a train wreck, keep in mind that mistakes are a normal part of life that happens to everyone. Don’t let one bad moment take you by surprise.
Forgive People (To Release the Negative Energy)
It can be hard to forgive someone else when it feels like they have brought you extra work and stress. When someone rear ends your vehicle, you may be tempted to lash out at them verbally. However, stop and think about how it may feel to be in their situation. Don’t act and feel as though you have never made a mistake, but choose empathy.
Forgive Yourself (Because You Deserve That)
Forgiving others can feel like a pretty simple matter in comparison to forgiving ourselves. There are many moments that we treat ourselves worse than we would ever allow a friend to treat us.
When you are having a difficult time forgiving yourself, think of how you would handle a similar mistake made by a good friend. Stop and think before bullying yourself, and consider seeking professional help if you can’t stop a cascade of negative thoughts every time you fall short of perfection.
Ask Yourself: Will this matter in 10 years?
We all have problems, and generally, at the time, any problem seems big. Perception is not always the truth, though, and it is up to us to put our situation into perspective so that we can properly deal with whatever comes our way.
When something negative happens in your life, ask yourself if it will matter in ten years. If it won’t, let it go. If someone gives you the middle finger in traffic, you may be tempted to lose your cool, but it is simply not worth it. Save your emotions for things that are life-changing and deserve your full attention.
When something goes wrong, you have two choices. You can slip into a rage, or let it go. Making the choice not to sweat the small stuff will bring you life-changing happiness, and you will be thankful for your own shift in perspective.
Can letting go work to help you manifest what you want with the law of attraction?
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ~Steve Maraboli
To put it simply: yes, letting go can and it will work for you. But something you need to understand is that letting go isn’t just HELPFUL when it comes to manifesting what you want – it is NECESSARY. So, if you want to manifest anything you want in your life, you must first release your attachment to the negative stuff you’ve been holding on to for far too long.
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