“You want to become aware of your thoughts, you want to choose your thoughts carefully and you want to have fun with this, because you are the masterpiece of your own life.” ~Joe Vitale
You might think building your self-esteem is for people who have time for such fluff, but you couldn’t be more wrong. The truth is that your level of self-esteem is directly reflected in your life circumstances – but what a lot of people don’t know is that the opposite is also true: your level of self-esteem is actually also the cause of your life circumstances in a way.
Your self-esteem affects your thoughts, your feelings – and the vibration you’re putting out into the universe. And, as Lisa Nichols said, “Your whole life is a manifestation of the thoughts that go on in your head.”
Or, to put it more simply: you are what you think. So, if you feel like your life isn’t everything you’d like it to be, by this logic, you should be able to simply replace your negative thoughts with positive ones and POOF! You are suddenly perfect. And that sounds way too simple – because it is. A lot of people blow off the law of attraction as too “woo woo” or too easy to be a real thing for this reason.
But there’s more to it than that. It’s about intentionally controlling your own vibration through awareness and thoughtfully choosing your influences, your areas of focus…even your own personal thoughts about yourself and the world around you. So, basically, if you’re ever going to create any real change in your life, your self-esteem cannot be in the toilet.
If your self-esteem is in the toilet, you will never really get what you want BECAUSE OF the law of attraction.
“A person is only limited by the thoughts that he chooses.” ~James Allen
If you’re going to use the law of attraction to your advantage, you’re going to need to have a really high sense of self-esteem. In fact, if we’re being honest, high self-esteem turns out to be an extremely important characteristic of pretty much all highly successful people. Without high levels of self-esteem you are unlikely to see yourself as being worthy of success or happiness, and as a result, will never truly try your hardest to achieve it.
High self-esteem will give you the courage to keep going when things get tough and believe in yourself when others say you will never accomplish something. Developing and building self-esteem is, therefore, one of the most important and valuable things you could ever do for yourself. Unfortunately, the value of self-esteem is often overlooked, yet the truth is we could all improve our level of self-esteem in some way or another.
Let’s get this straight. High self-esteem is NOT narcissism.
At least not toxic narcissism. One of the primary differences is that toxic narcissists are entirely self-focused and lack empathy. That means they end up treating people around them like objects and possessions rather than fellow humans they actually care about. This video will offer insight into the difference between narcissism and high self-esteem.
Things That Build Self Esteem
“To bring anything into your life, imagine that it’s already there.” ~Richard Bach
The things that improve your self-esteem are quite simple. Basically, anything that makes you feel good about yourself, makes you feel important or valuable as a person will build your level of self-esteem. So if your life is full of these things on a consistent daily basis, then your level of self-esteem will automatically rise.
However, the opposite is also true. So anything that makes you feel bad, reduces your feelings of worthiness or importance, will lower your self-esteem. This is truly all about intentional vibration management – this is one way you can intentionally vibrate HIGHER and toward the things you want and actually don’t want. So CHOOSE your vibration carefully.
Causes Of Low Self Esteem
“Most people are thinking about what they don’t want, and they’re wondering why it shows up over and over again.” ~John Assaraf
So when you look at self-esteem like this, you can see that overall self-esteem is just a balance between things that make you feel good, and things that make you feel bad. If you feel good more often than you do bad, you will have high self-esteem and vice versa.
So why is this important? Well, many people who suffer from low levels of self-esteem continue to expose themselves to things that make them feel bad. They may hang around with the same people every day who laugh at them or treat them disrespectfully. They may talk to themselves in a way that lacks respect, such as saying they are a looser or that they can’t do anything. Or they may do other things which day by day make them feel the same way.
Change Your Life, Change Your Thoughts
Nurture great thoughts, for you will never go higher than your thoughts.” ~Benjamin Disraeli
So the key here is change. If you are able to identify the things that make you feel bad and replace them with the things that make you feel good, ultimately your self-esteem will improve. You won’t have to try to improve and build up your self-esteem, it will just happen automatically.
This principle of change is so simple it is often overlooked because people become used to doing the same things day in day out. The trouble with this is that by doing the same things every day, your thought patterns remain the same every day and so you FEEL the same every day. This is the real value and importance of change, which is why sometimes you need to change your life first, before you can change your thoughts – it’s the epitome of “fake it til ya make it.”
Intentionally changing your habits, your behaviors, your thoughts – this is the key. Act as IF you have already become what you want to be, act as if you’ve already achieved it, received it or had it. Because by intentionally choosing these thoughts, you are vibrating in line with what you want – not what you don’t want.
This simple shift in perspective will break your current thought patterns and create new patterns of thought. It is up to you to create patterns that will improve and enrich your life, and you do this by exposing yourself to things that make you feel good about yourself and raise your value as a person.
“Envision the future you desire. Create the life of your dreams. See it, feel it, believe it.” ~Jack Canfield
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